When I say settling, I mean I see people settling with their jobs, their relationships, and even their goals. And I am starting to notice it more…and more…and more.
Growing up, it was always just my mom and I. Though I didn’t realize it at the time, I now look back and realize how she NEVER settled. She never settled with any men that didn’t treat her right. She never settled with any job that she didn’t like or enjoy. She never settled with where we chose to live or how she chose to raise me.
Unfortunately, not all people are able to grow up watching and learning from someone with such a strong and devoted mindset. Now that I am older, I realize this and I want to do everything in my power to change that.
If you think about it, when you start to settle, you are crippling yourself.
Take a second and take in how your life is at this very moment. Who surrounds you, who do you share your love with, your life with, and if they really deserve it? Think about what your career choice is right now, and then ask yourself if you could do something better? Be someone better? Think about your goals you have set for yourself, if you have any at all, and do you get excited when you think about them? Do they make you want to take on the world and show everyone what you have to share?
It’s unfortunate that so many people are living their life settling. Imagine how amazing this world would be if NONE of us settled? If we all could comprehend each other’s worth and blossom from it?
That brings me to my next thought.
You first have to realize your worth in order to conquer the vicious black hole of persuasion to settle. We all have our quirky traits and qualities that mold us to who we are. We all have our talents and passions. We all have our strengths, as we all have our weaknesses. Know your worth and take advantage of the gifts you have been given, that others have not. If you settle, you are not only wasting those gifts but you are also beginning to lose them.
Second, surround yourself with people that realize your worth, too! Yes, people like this do exist, and if you don’t have any yet- it is probably because YOU have not realized your worth yet. Others cannot believe in you, until YOU believe in you first. In that case, rewind to the last paragraph.
When you begin to surround yourself with people that realize how fantastic, unique and special you are, not only will they respect you but they will help build you up, celebrate you and love you, too. If you are settling with mediocre partners or friends, you are ONLY holding yourself back. You are letting them cripple you. This will only hold you back from being the best YOU, you can be, and if you do this long enough, you’ll, too, lose yourself.
The most important advice I can give is to love yourself. Recognize how amazing you are, how unique you are, how talented you are- and blossom from this. Nobody can be YOU. So do YOU to the best of your ability. Don’t let anyone or anything hold you back.
Never. Settle.
EVER.